How to Gain Confidence
Find Your Confidence
Finder your inner confidence is a matter of self-discovery. There are so many people out there who suffer from low self-esteem, anxiety and depression.
These individuals feel alone. However, they are not alone! Everyone deals with feelings of uncertainty or worry mixed with sadness. Even the most prominent and powerful figures in society. It is my theory that individuals with these negative feelings can never feel better because they think there is something wrong with them when there isn’t. Everyone feels this way from time to time.
When I was a young teenager, I was shy and felt unsure of myself. I felt like I would miss out on little opportunities because I was nervous to speak up.
I went to regular bible studies once a week and one of the moms there said that if I wanted to sit by some of the other young teenagers then I need to speak up and do it. She said if you are too afraid to ask, then you won’t receive. I know that this sounds like a tiny example of lacking confidence but clearly this is evidence that I hadn’t developed a healthy self-esteem yet.
Don’t Worry About Reactions
I realized that I needed to have confidence in myself and not worry about other people’s reactions. I was able to come out of my shell. Sometimes this happens when you are 3 years old, 7 years old, 10 years old, 20, 30, 40 or even 60 years old!!! In my case I was like 13 years old when I was finally able to come out of my shell. I discovered that I didn’t want to feel insecure with myself, so I decided to tell myself that I am confident!
This new-found confidence gave me the ability to help other teenagers at church who felt like they had a very severe low self-esteem. Using Jesus as an example and understanding that each and every one of us has a special place in this world makes me feel -and those I helped feel- more confident in themselves.
When I became an adult, I had a little bit of stage fright and would be afraid of being on stage in front of thousands of people. So that is something I knew I needed to face to grow as a person. It’s important to face our fears.
I received the opportunity to walk the runway in front of thousands of people. However, I was scared to walk the runway in front of thousands of people. lol. So what did I do?
I walked the runway in front of thousands of people! In a bikini! I felt like I was going to vomit before going on stage but when it was over I was mad at myself for not being able to enjoy being up there and experience an amazing runway show. The next time I made sure I enjoyed myself. I was also proud of myself because at that moment I knew that there is nothing that can stop me from what I want in life.
Life isn’t easy and everyone is faced with feelings of sadness or worry. It is important to not dwell on those feelings. Throw those thoughts away. You have the opportunity to be who you want to be! You can spend your life sad, scared or insecure or you can tell yourself that this isn’t the life you want.
Be The Confident Person You Want To Be
This one employee at my college said, “You have to fake it till you make it.” Well you can do it! You can do anything you want! Don’t spend the rest of your life wishing you could be someone else. Just go out and be the person you want.Get out and socialize. Enjoy life! Set goals for yourself and reach them. Create goals for every aspect of your life; social, business, etc.
I went on to accomplish many amazing things in life and continue to take advantage of new opportunities. I became a TV show host, I got to do amazing photo shoots, I hosted events, interviewed celebrities on the red carpet, became a marketing executive and finally received the opportunity to be a co-founder of a company that will change the world.
At 13 years old I could have remained timid and shy, unsure of myself but then I would have never been able to accomplish all that I have. It doesn’t matter if you are 13 or 45- you have the ability to live the rest of your life as the person you want to be. Just go out and do it! Tell yourself that you can. Tell yourself that you aren’t scared. You aren’t weak. You aren’t sad. You aren’t alone! Any time a discouraging thought comes into your head saying that you can’t. Tell yourself that you can do it! Say “I’m gonna fake it till I make it!” Stay away from negative people. Become a positive person! Whatever you do, just never give up.
Your Mind Is More Powerful
This advice really works. Here’s why… Your mind is more powerful than you think. After all, you are suffering because you mind is controlling your happiness and making you think you have anxiety, depression and a low self-esteem. You have this one life to live and your mind is stopping you from enjoying life.
This means that if your mind right now is the key to your misery, then your mind is the powerful key to your happiness. Fill your mind with positive thinking. Tell your mind and body that you can overcome any obstacle. Tell yourself that you are strong, confident and happy. It will work! You will be strong, confident and happy.
Forget The Past
Also….forget the past! You are becoming a new person. No… you are a new person. It doesn’t matter how you were in the past or what you encountered in the past. Remember this saying, “Don’t look back. You aren’t going that way.” Positive thoughts everyone. And forward thinking. You can do it!
Here’s some last advice; when you are trapped thinking about yourself and your own problems- refocus your attention to others. Get out there and help others!This will take your mind off of yourself and give you the confidence to believe in yourself. You will also be making the world a better place and you will find inner peace and happiness.
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